Rituals of connection is defined by Dr. Gottman as structured events or routines, that you each enjoy and depend on, and that reflect and reinforce your sense of togetherness.

Rituals foster deeper meaning in your relationship and a deeper connection with your partner.

They can be big or small, frequent or infrequent. My parents always read the newspaper together in the mornings growing up. This simple daily ritual cultivated conversation and furthermore promoted a greater bond between them.

Every year on our anniversary, my husband and I open a card from someone who attended our wedding to read their marital advice. This ritual builds intimacy as we may laugh, cry, or reminisce about the day we married.

Big or small, rituals of connection in your relationship will lead to shared meaning as a couple.

Today, I’d like for you to think about the rituals you and your partner share. Think about the rituals your parents or grandparents share.

Are there any rituals you might like to begin with your partner to bring the two of you closer?

Start a ritual by sitting down to share these answers with your partner today. Maybe this will become a yearly tradition of finding opportunities to connect.